[ There's another pause, because while he knows he doesn't really need permission, it also...feels validating to hear someone else say that, that he doesn't have to forgive his old man, that there's no obligation to forgive someone who was so harmful to him in so many ways. ]
that makes sense. you know how all those self help books are, 'forgive and move on that's the only way'
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I think with something like that, parents, you forgive them for yourself. Not for them. If you don't want to forgive him, don't.
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that makes sense. you know how all those self help books are, 'forgive and move on that's the only way'
bullshit. no it isn't.
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Not us, one way or another.
You don't have to choose between forgiving him and being incandescent with rage all of the time.
Sometimes the best you can do is figure out how to think about them less.
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yeah, that's true. helps that this past year has been absolutely friggin' insane
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